A newly married couple approached the Master to seek his blessings.
Master blessed: “May your children have best of teens.”
The couple was surprised as were those present.
The new bride could not hold herself back and asked ”Master we were married just last month, bless us so that our love lasts us a lifetime”
Master smiled” Love which is based on masculine/feminine polarity is mortal. Being attractive in nature its only purpose is to bring the poles together. It does not last much beyond that. Most flowers are temporary as having served their purpose they wither away.
Likewise the love that gives you the current blossom will last only for a few seasons. However there is another kind of love which if you nurture now, can last you a lifetime”.
So saying the master stopped. The young bride was too eager to allow Master his pause. She interrupted:
“What love is that, Sir”
“That is the slow motion love of a man women friendship.” Master replied. “ If you aim to be lovers based on your natural chemistry together, you will find your relationship gone when passion wanes. However if you utilize this honeymoon period of attraction to lay foundation of a genuine friendship, another kind of love, based on empathy and caring will start to secrete in your life. It will take time and efforts to actualize, will not be dramatic, smooth or even passionate but it will be enduring. Remember what draws you to your partner initially is not what keeps you there so you must put efforts to build its alternate.”
“How can this man women friendship be created, sire” the man wanted to know.
“In two ways: in action, by doing things together and in emotion, by genuinely liking the being of other person, on an as it is basis. So when you let your partner flower into their own being without their having to change for you and create a dynamic where sharing is reciprocal, your marriage is based on a solid foundation. That’s the kind of love you want to achieve in your marriage.” Master said.
“What of teenage thing you mentioned master” Another man wanted to know.
“A parental relation which is based on genuine friendship with each other, is often the best state for the kids teenage. Since this friendship takes time to develop, so adopting it as a mission of your marriage” To give best teenage to our kids” often keeps the marriage on the right path & hence that blessing”. Master closed with a chuckle.